What "Will We Get Back Together?" Is Really Asking
You're asking if the connection is truly over, or just paused. Breakups don't always mean endings—sometimes they're a necessary reset before reunion.
You want to know if they still have feelings. The question beneath the question: "Do they think about me the way I think about them?"
You need permission to hope—or permission to move on. Either answer is a gift. Knowing frees you from limbo.
The 3-Card Reconciliation Spread
Use this spread when asking about getting back together:
| Position | Meaning | What It Reveals |
|---|---|---|
| Card 1 | Their Energy | How they currently feel about you and the relationship |
| Card 2 | The Obstacle | What stands between you and reconciliation |
| Card 3 | The Potential | Where this is heading if both people are willing |
How to Ask
"What is the potential for reconciliation between me and [name]?"
This phrasing acknowledges that reunion requires two willing people—the cards can show potential, but not force outcomes.
Questions That Work for Ex Readings
✅ Empowering Questions
"Is [name] open to reconnecting with me?"
"What energy do I need to embody for the best outcome?"
"Is reconciliation in my highest good?"
❌ Questions That Keep You Stuck
"Why did they leave me?" (backward-looking, no actionable insight)
"Will they realize they made a mistake?" (focuses on their regret, not your path)
"Are they thinking about me right now?" (obsessive energy that clouds readings)
Real Example: A Reconciliation Reading
David's Situation: Broke up with his girlfriend 3 months ago after a fight about commitment. Both said hurtful things. He's grown a lot since and wonders if there's still a chance.
Question: "Is reconciliation with Anna in alignment with my highest good?"
The Spread:
Card 1 (Her Energy): Six of Cups She's feeling nostalgic about the good times. The Six of Cups shows she hasn't fully closed the door—there's warmth when she thinks of the relationship.
Card 2 (The Obstacle): Five of Swords The hurtful words from the final fight are still a barrier. Pride on both sides. Neither wants to be the first to admit fault.
Card 3 (The Potential): The Star If both people can move past pride, there's genuine hope. The Star indicates healing is possible and the connection can be restored—better than before.
Reading Summary: Reunion is possible, but requires someone to extend an olive branch first. A genuine apology addressing the Five of Swords energy would open the door that The Star promises.
What David did: Sent a thoughtful message acknowledging his part in the fight, without expecting anything back.
Outcome: Anna responded the next day. They're now in couples counseling and rebuilding.
How to Read Timing in Reconciliation Readings
Cards That Suggest Fast Timing (Days to Weeks)
- Aces → New beginnings imminent
- Eight of Wands → Swift movement, expect contact soon
- The Chariot → Things moving quickly
- Page cards → Messages coming
Cards That Suggest Medium Timing (Weeks to Months)
- The Star → Healing happening, but needs time
- Temperance → Patience required, but worth it
- Six of Cups → Reunion after a period of reflection
Cards That Suggest Longer Timing (Months+)
- The Hermit → Deep inner work needed first
- Four of Swords → Rest period before action
- The Hanged Man → Perspective shift required
Cards That Suggest It's Not Meant to Be
- The Tower → The foundation wasn't solid
- Ten of Swords → Time to accept the ending
- Three of Swords → More pain than healing here
- Death → Transformation, but not back to what was
The Honest Truth About "Getting Back Together" Readings
Tarot readers see reconciliation questions more than almost any other topic. Here's what years of readings have taught us:
1. Hope isn't the same as probability. The cards can show genuine connection still exists and that reunion isn't likely. Both can be true.
2. The best reunions happen after real change. When people get back together without addressing root issues, they just break up again. The cards often show what work needs to happen first.
3. Sometimes "no" is protection. If the cards strongly advise against reconciliation, consider that you might be romanticizing what was actually painful.
4. Your energy matters. Obsessive questioning clouds readings. If you've asked this question 10 times, the cards will start reflecting your anxiety, not the truth.
One Reading, One Truth
Ask once. Really sit with the answer. Then either act on it or release it.
The cards offer guidance, not guarantees. But they're remarkably good at showing what's genuinely possible when you're brave enough to ask clearly and listen honestly.
Ready to know? The cards don't judge. They just illuminate.